My age is keeping me stuck?!

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Postby miss_maui » Sat Apr 30, 2016 4:27 pm

Thank you very much for your replies!

Regarding therapy: It's the first time I've ever seen a therapist and I have no idea how to determine if we're on the right track or not. I'm not in the US and switching is a bit difficult because of my type of health insurance (not impossible though, of course). He says his main goal is to make me question my negative thinking which I think is a very good point.. We talked a lot about the fact that the world in my head and reality are two different things.. However, when it comes to my actual problems he keeps saying that they'll disappear once I'm healthy enough to find a new job. He yawns a lot and has been asking me "what he should do with me" twice. I just feel like he thinks I'm just a bit stuck and working full-time again will make my problems disappear. I tried talking to him about the issue, but he doesn't seem to agree with me that getting a new job won't magically erase my problems...

Those were good points. It's hard for me to have patience with myself. I feel like everything comes with an agenda (if that's the right expression).. I'm fixing my health, but, of course, because of it I have a gap in my résumé, I fall behind in student loan payments and - back to my topic - I get older without being where or who I want to be. Although patience and treating my body with care and love are the crucial points, it's hard not to get overwhelmed by things like angry banks who pressure me because of outstanding student loan payments. I pay as much as I can, but being scared to open the mailbox every day is not exactly the kind of peace I need. I know it probably won't be like that forever...
Sometimes it's just hard to see the bigger picture, I guess.

The "Planning Sunday" process is great, thank you for sharing that with me, Richard.
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Postby JuliusFawcett » Sun May 01, 2016 5:42 pm

You are in the perfect place to move forward with strength, power and joy. Only you can choose to change your self talk to accept the opportunities that you have.
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Postby jonathontwiz » Wed May 04, 2016 12:25 pm

You still have your whole life ahead of you. Many people change careers in their thirties and many women still date in their thirties. You can find a man in his thirties or forties that will be interested in you. You still have your youth, life doesn't end at thirty, it gets better. You have reached a new era of maturity in your life and the people who will come into your life will resonate with you more than the people who came into your life when you were in your twenties. There are a lot of men out there that would prefer the maturity of a grown woman in her thirties over a woman in her twenties. Maybe you grew up in an environment that reinforced the belief that a woman should be married by the time she is 30 and being in your thirties is too late in life to start a new career. The world has changed, this isn't 1950, there are no rules, just do what you need to do to get on your feet and be happy. You will find what you need, a relationship, a career, this is just moment in your life where you're going through the process of evolving yourself even if hard times are teaching you life lessons.
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Postby miss_maui » Sat May 07, 2016 3:04 pm

jonathontwiz wrote:You still have your whole life ahead of you. Many people change careers in their thirties and many women still date in their thirties. You can find a man in his thirties or forties that will be interested in you. You still have your youth, life doesn't end at thirty, it gets better. You have reached a new era of maturity in your life and the people who will come into your life will resonate with you more than the people who came into your life when you were in your twenties. There are a lot of men out there that would prefer the maturity of a grown woman in her thirties over a woman in her twenties. Maybe you grew up in an environment that reinforced the belief that a woman should be married by the time she is 30 and being in your thirties is too late in life to start a new career. The world has changed, this isn't 1950, there are no rules, just do what you need to do to get on your feet and be happy. You will find what you need, a relationship, a career, this is just moment in your life where you're going through the process of evolving yourself even if hard times are teaching you life lessons.


Wow, thank you so much, this resonated a lot with me!!
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Postby virat1ew77 » Fri Feb 05, 2021 6:55 am

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Postby Dale_znovic » Tue Feb 09, 2021 6:13 am

that is really so sad to hear i wish you all the best for your future
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