Destructive lies

Postby Billygrey » Tue Aug 02, 2016 12:42 am

Twice now in my last year I have let stress get me to the point where I have lied to my wife. The first time resulted in me being caught, the second in me eventually coming clean, but still hurting my wife. I am trying to win my wife's trust back, and part of that is learning how I can prevent this from occurring again. Stress and situations beyond my control are hard for me personally to deal with, and asking for help is challenging. Both events have been a situation I didn't know how to handle causing me to stick my head the proverbial sand and lie repeatedly to delay consequences. Please help with any advice / resources you have for dealing with stress and destructive lying. Advice, web resources and books/formal guides would all be appreciated.
Thank you
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Postby laureat » Tue Aug 02, 2016 1:53 am

if someone lies you once
a problem is that we expect that to happen again
if someone lies you more , you expect that to always happen

we learn through experience of what should we expect

in life we have many negative experiences and so we feel bad about some things but as we have positive experience we can change how we feel about it

if you guys have positive experience, no-lies experience you create the trust

you start to show a positive side of yours, you start to show you can be trusted
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